This unbelievable HR opened my eyes! — Continued

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Dear Readers, 

Thank you for coming here!

I decided that enough was enough. I did not have the time to keep calling her and listening to her excuses.

So I shot an email to her, asking when the issue can be resolved, ccing her manager and the managing director.

She did not reply my email. No one did.

But the issue got solved the same day.

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The take-away for me is to defend what is rightfully ours.

1. Know what is rightfully ours: your leave, pay etc etc
2. Defend rigorously when these are offended, preferably with proof, i.e. with emails, not calls.
3. If not, the other party might see this as something to take advantage of. And the result is wasted time and frustration for us. 
4. It might be even bad for the other party. For example, if I insisted and she just solved the issue, I would not have shot the email to her manager and the manager director.

Being friendly is good generally; but being firm sometimes could be the best action for both parties.

To us all!

Till next time!

Low Low Low

 

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

I just feel low these few days.

Nothing seems interesting enough.

There are a couple of things going on but I cannot really pinpoint the root cause.

Maybe it is just natural. Some chemical is either too high or too low in my body.

Maybe it is the diet, or the weather, or it is nothing at all.

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More and More, I realize the higher we go, the more we know, the harder the situation could be.

We could see clearly how those constraints work together to block all the possible paths.

And of course, we have to give it to those people who set those “perfect” constraints.

More often than not, the person trapped is among the important ones of them.

If we are in those situations, we would think the situation is challenging.

It is if you want to break free, for which you need a break-through, which, by definition, is hard, if at all possible.

However, there could be another solution — patience!

Just wait out, for the next opportunity.

It could feel a waste of time and life. But that proves to be the way with the best track record.

And surprisingly, it makes more and more sense as we age, compared to younger people who surpassingly have more time to spend in waiting.

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We have the right not to do things we do not want to do.

We have the right not to stretch ourselves to complete tasks to make other people’s lives easier.

We have the right to ask for what we deserve.

We have the right to escalate when treated unfairly.

We have the right to…

We have the right, probably more so than we realize. 

We just need to exercise smartly.

It was eye-opening to witness it first-hand and for the first time.

We should take care of ourselves first.

Or think about it this way: nothing is guaranteed even if we give up all those rights.

We can exercise those rights right when we stop wanting things out of reach.

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When feeling stressed, get ourselves together.

Take a walk, get a coffee or take a nap.

Clear our heads and know that the sky wont fall.

List what we need to do and organize them: when to do what with whose support. By now, at lease half of the stress is gone.

And then do it.

Refuse distractions: colleagues’ questions, boss’s requests etc etc

Till next time!