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Dear Readers,
Thank you for coming here!
I am troubled because I do not know whether I should trust someone.
He is my mentor. What he says makes sense. And he is not shy in telling me that he wants the best for me.
But I always feel something is not quite right, almost like that he always has his own hidden agenda and he hides it really well from me.
I want to trust him and I try to convince myself to trust him. But I just could not get rid of the feeling.
I want to be completely open and honest with him, which I have been so far. But more and more, I fear that he will use that against me.
What he tells me makes senses and he always puts himself in my shoes (At least that is how I feel). But things have not been really working out for me.
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I am really troubled.
On one hand, I fear that I have been trusting the wrong person. On the other hand, I fear even more that I might wrong someone who actually cares about me.
My dear readers, how do you usually tell whether to trust someone? Can you please share with me? Any guidance is appreciated.
Thank you!
Trust your gut
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ReplyDeleteTrust your gut to some extent (as your subconscious self can pick up things your conscious self can't). Verify if you can - e.g. How does he treat others? What do others say about him?
ReplyDeleteTake his advice but with risk management measures in place (e.g. implement in increments and see results)
Also, finally, even if he is fully trustworthy, his advice may not be right/suitable. E.g. you normally can't trust investment advice from well-meaning trustworthy friends whom you really know you can trust -- as trustworthiness is one thing; competency in mentoring and giving correct advice in certain subject areas is another.
Thank you, abc! This really helps. I listened to you and tried to verify and found out that I could mostly trust him. But like you said, competency is another thing all together. Thank you!
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