Never get attached to something to the extent that you would lose yourself

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

We need to maintain a healthy balance between our passions and our sense of self. 

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of success, happiness, and material possessions, but it’s important to remember that these things should never come at the cost of our own identity and well-being.

Attachment is a natural human emotion, and it’s completely normal to feel strongly about the things we care about. Whether it’s a job, a relationship, a hobby, or a material object, attachment can bring us happiness and fulfillment. However, when our attachment becomes too intense and all-consuming, it can also lead to negative consequences, including stress, anxiety, and a loss of self-awareness.

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The problem with attachment is that it often clouds our judgment and causes us to prioritize the thing we’re attached to over everything else, including our own well-being. For example, if you’re attached to your job, you may find yourself working long hours, sacrificing your personal life, and neglecting your health in the pursuit of success. Similarly, if you’re attached to a relationship, you may compromise your own values and beliefs in order to keep the other person happy.

The key to avoiding the negative consequences of attachment is to maintain a healthy balance between our passions and our sense of self. This means setting boundaries, taking time for self-care, and being honest with ourselves about what we truly want and need. It also means being aware of the things we’re attached to and the impact they have on our lives, and making adjustments as necessary.

In order to cultivate a healthy sense of self, it’s important to engage in activities and hobbies that bring us joy and fulfillment, and to spend time with the people who support and uplift us. By prioritizing our own well-being and maintaining a strong sense of self, we can avoid getting lost in our attachments and stay true to who we are.

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In conclusion, attachment to things, people, or goals can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can bring us happiness and fulfillment. On the other hand, it can also cause us to lose ourselves and neglect our own well-being. By maintaining a healthy balance between our passions and our sense of self, and by being mindful of the things we’re attached to, we can avoid the negative consequences of attachment and live a life that is true to who we are.

Till next time!

It hard to balance

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here! 

Everyone wants to work on things that can generate results directly, instead of backend which seems insignificant.

And everyone wants to go after the big fish, instead of the small ones.

This is especially true when you go up.

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But more often than not, results are not entirely up to us. There are always factors we cannot control.

As a result, sometimes, the only thing we can do is the backend staff or the small thing.

In that case, doing the small things well is the only right thing to do.

It is hard because we have to convince or force ourselves to endure the boredom and suffer from the feelings that no progress has been made, despite our hard work.

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And then it comes the harder part — to sustain.

Are we sure these are the only things we could do now?

How can we be sure that we are not using the small things as excuses to avoid facing the bigger problems?

And sometimes, the questions are justified because we are using them as excuses.

So we might constantly swing between the two ends. The consequence is usually the worst — we accomplish nothing in the end.

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It is hard to balance.

But below can carry us a long way.

• Have a strong sense of security towards ourselves
• Maintain a cadence and habit that are satisfactory to ourselves
• Do not be a slave of laziness — do what you have planned

To us all!