Humans are pathetic as a race, to some extent

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

We, as a race, have never been this powerful — We do not need to worry about attacks from other predators; Our supply is more than abundant; The average life span and education/medical level has never been this high; We built mega cities to reshape the face of the earth; We even ventured into the Space.

But at the same time, we might be the most insecure, struggling and unhappy beings.

So much so that businesses that help people find inner-peace and happiness are booming, because more and more people believe they need the help!

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It is actually easy to understand:

1.Our instincts for survival no longer guide us

Animals are happy because they know exactly what they need to do at any point of time from their born instincts for survival. And the evolution has taught them how to accomplish what they need to do. 

They experience consistency, peace and purpose.

We humans have long lost that “Luxury”. We no longer needs to fight for survival and we have “Free” time that we do not know what to do with.

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2. Old traditions developed to replace the instincts are being broken and discarded

Our ancestors must have panicked when they realized that the instincts could no longer guide their actions during their “Free” time. So traditions were developed in its replacement to give people purpose and faith, no matter how fake and unreasonable they were. 

Coming into modern times, we have “proudly” liberated ourselves from those “chains”, only to find ourselves panicking in front of too much “freedom”, at least for some of us. 

What should I do with all those freedom? 

Just go and play? Would that be wasting life? What if rainy days come later?

Go and study/work? Why? I do not enjoy it and I wont starve even if I do not do it…

Then go do something meaningful and purposeful? Are you kidding? If I knew that something, believed in it and was willing to commit to it, we wont be having this conversation in the first place.

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It is ridiculous that all that power and abundance would raise an insecure and pathetic race.

But maybe that insecurity is the thing that acquired us the power and abundance.

If the destiny is so, I guess we have to ware the crown and bear the weight!

 

Till next time!

Anxiety is not necessary most of the time

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Dear Readers,

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As my work becomes more demanding, I need to complete some things during the weekend, like updating this blog, hitting my reading target, and sometimes completing some work.

The ideal situation is that I could complete what I need to do early Saturday morning. Then I can enjoy the rest of the weekend.

But I cannot always do that due to various reasons.

That is when I start to feel anxieties sometimes.

I keep worrying about it to the point I cannot focus on and enjoy what I am doing now.

That hurts my happiness.

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But most of the time, it proved to be unnecessary. 

Most of the time, I overestimated the difficulty of what needed to be done. 

And I could complete what I needed to do when I sat down and really got to it, many times earlier than my plan.

So I blamed myself why I had to let the anxiety affect my happiness.

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Being able to accurately estimate the workload is a skill, which takes only experiences and observation.

It can certainly help ease the anxiety.

But most importantly, we need to be able to focus on what we are doing currently and not worry about what may or may not be coming.

That is the only way of happiness.

To us all.

Quick thoughts on Happyness

 

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People typically associate Happyness with what we “have”: Houses, cars, wealth, power etc etc

But actually, Happyness is more associated with what we “do not have”: No worries, no illness or disasters, no struggling etc etc

What we “have” is more for showing to others as we are social animals after all.

What we “do not have” is really for ourselves.

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To achieve the “have”, we can put in efforts and there are many ways.

To achieve the “do not have”, we need to pursue both internally and externally:

Internally, we can train and improve our “immune system”: healthy body, strong mind, wisdom…

Externally, it seems that we can only rely on luck. So do a lot of good things. Believe that as long as we keep doing good things, good things will happen to us.

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Of course, not everyone will have happyness as their primary life goal. 

Some are driven by visions, results, popularity etc etc

But, a little bit of extra happyness is welcome everywhere for everyone!

Wish us all happyness!

PS. regarding the spelling, of course it is with a “y”!

Till next time!