You want to win or win the debate? — why “winning the debate” might also matter?

 

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Dear readers,

Thank you for coming here!

You might also know the famous phrase: unsuccessful people aim to win the debate while success people aim to win.

It is a great reminder that we should focus on the end goal and avoid wasting too much energy on distractions. 

It is also a great reminder that we should sometimes avoid heated debate that does not matter that much but damages relationship, so that we do not create unnecessary obstacles in our path to “win”.

The reminders are important because what they remind us not to do is exactly what our instincts drive us to do.

Focusing too much on “winning the debate” can hurt our chances to “win” in those cases.

However, it is important not to put them against each other: “losing the debate” or “avoid the debate” is not necessary to “win”.

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On the contrary, “wining the debate” is typically important to “win”.

1. Cognitive coordination

To “win”, Cognitive coordination is important. 

It is human nature to feel bad and struggling to do something against our belief. 

And everyone wants to feel good.

“Winning the debate” is a great way to achieve cognitive coordination, and therefore, we feel good, motivated and energized to push forward our agenda.

2. Executive presence

“Winning the debate” shows we care about what we do and that is why we invest efforts in the debate.

The attitude of “care” automatically increases our executive presence.

And chances are that something good will come out of the debate.

3. People Influence

The fact of “winning the debate” will win over people who care less because that shows power.

The passion and capabilities we show in the process of “winning the debate” will win over people who share the same passion and have similar mindset.

Consequently, we have more resources to advance our course.

Therefore, “wining the debate” is, more often than not, important to “win”.

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Summary

Some statements are so well said that we are convinced at the first sight.

However, it is important to think one level deeper to explore the right circumstances they should be applied to.

About “Winning” and “Winning the debate”, it is really about focusing on our priorities.

If our priority is to “win”, fight hard and “win the debate” if it helps us to “win”. Otherwise, give up “winning the debate” and re-direct our attention to other activities that can.

The statement really warns us against “winning the debate” for the sake of “winning the debate”. And it is so convincing simply because we tend to fall into that trap so often, no matter which life stage we are in.

However, it would be total misunderstanding and stupid to completely avoid “winning the debate” in order to increase the chances to “win”.

Till next time!

Here is why average investors lose out in stock investing

 

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

Have you ever done below?

• Sold a great stock at a 10 or 20% gain, only to see it skyrocket shortly after
• Held a bad stock for the longest time, only to see it drop to the bottom

If you have done so and more than a few times, you are definitely NOT alone. 

I am with you totally. I have done this with quite a few stocks for quite a few times in my not-so-long investment journey.

When I recalled my experiences and my thinking process leading to the decisions, I realized that it was due to the mismatch between the behavior of the Stock Market and the behavior of my own.

The stock market, maybe most of the things in this world, follows Matthew Effect, while my behavior followed Anchoring Effect and Mean Reversion.

Let me explain.

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1.Matthew effect for the stock market

Matthew effect, simply put, is

• The strong get stronger and the weak get weaker
• The rich get richer and the poor get poorer

If you meet your university peers 2 or 3 years after graduation, you wont see much difference in most of them. They will be in similar levels of their career and making roughly the same pay as you. You might disagree with me by pointing out that some of them make twice as much as the others (6k vs 3k), such as banking and consulting employees. But trust me, the difference of a few thousand is nothing, compared to what is coming.

If you meet them 10 years after graduation, you will see a huge gap between those who are doing well and those who are just getting by. For example, those who get into the leading start-ups in the Tech industry could be already financially free, while some others are struggling to keep their jobs amid Covid.

If you meet them 30–40 years after graduation, probably you will have nothing to talk about rather than the common experience you had in University.

Those who do well will do better, while those who don’t will get worse.

This is also the case in the stock market.

The capital inflow concentrates on the leading companies in good industries, pushing their stock prices higher and higher. 

On the other hand, the rest of the stock will continue to tank due to lack of capital.

The more mature the stock market, the more obvious the trend.

In the US, this has been the case for a long time: trades concentrate on leading stocks.

In China, the trend has officially been recognized this year. In January, the index climbed up while more than 2/3 of the stocks dropped in prices. 

The days for shorting penny stocks are over.

So, in stock market, the trend is that good stocks will command higher and higher prices, while bad stocks will suffer from lower and lower interests and prices.

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2.Anchoring Effect and Mean Reversion for my behavior

Anchoring effect is “a cognitive bias where an individual depends too heavily on an initial piece of information offered (considered to be the “anchor”) to make subsequent judgments during decision making”.

Mean reversion is “a theory implying that asset prices and historical returns gradually move towards the long-term mean”.

Anchoring effect makes me treat the stock price when I start to track it or the buying price as the baseline.

Mean reversion makes me believe that the stock price will tend to revert back to the baseline.

Therefore, when a stock price rises by 20%, I start to believe that it will revert soon and start selling.

When a stock price drops by 20%, I again start to believe that it will revert soon and continue to hold or start buying.

Therefore, I can only hold good stocks for short term and enjoy limited gains, but hold bad stocks for the longest time and suffer big losses.

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Summary

On one hand, good stocks will command higher and higher prices, while bad stocks will suffer from lower and lower interests and prices.

On the other hand, the average investors suffer from treating their buying price as baseline and believing that the stock prices will revert back to it. 

As a result of the mismatch, they let go of the great stocks at 10–20% gain while holding on to the bad stocks which will bring them higher and higher losses.

So true that we need to go against human nature to succeed in investing!

Till next time!