My son is so clear!! Weren’t we all?

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

My son is so clever that he never ceases to amaze me.

When he was very little, I used to sing to him to put him to sleep (My way of practicing Karaoke). 

And there was this time when I just started to sing, my son completed the rest of the sentence.

That totally took me by surprise. 

I was looking for where the sound came from and wondering whether I left my phone playing. 

When I could not locate the source of the sound, I sang again and again my son completed the sentence. Only then I realized it could have come from the little thing on my shoulder.

So I sang again and he again completed the sentence. And I was sure.

I felt so much love for him at that moment.

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Fast forward to last week.

On our way back from his piano class, he told me he had given my number to his good friend in pre-school, because his friend would not come to school before year end, and he wanted to stay in touch with him.

I was again surprised.

I recently had a new number and I never told him the number.

So I asked how he knew my number.

So he said that I was telling my new number to my wife and he overheard it.

So I asked him to repeat the number.

Not surprisingly, he got it wrong.

The 3rd and 4th digits were wrong. The rest were correct.

When I told him he was wrong, he immediately started verifying where he was wrong:

• Is “xxxx” correct? — He was referring to the last 4 digits. He was correct.
• Is “xx” correct? — He was referring to the first 2 digits. He was correct.
• Is “xx” correct? — Lastly, he was referring to the 3rd and 4th digits.

So I told him that was called “Divide and Conquer” — breaking down problems and tackling one piece at a time.

And I asked him why he verified with such sequence. 

He told me because he was very sure about the last 4 digits, sure about the first 2 and not sure about the middle 2.

Guys, he can make a fantastic problem solver or what!

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After praising him and again feeling so much love for him, I realized I was clever like him as well when I was little.

Math, singing, dancing, poem..you name it.

And then it came to me “Weren’t we all?”

We were all “clever” and surprised others in some areas. 

But we feel it less and less when we grow up.

Education system could be part of the reason.

The fact that we have to deal with more complex problems could be another.

The culture, social dynamics etc could be another.

…

The list goes on.

And we change by learning certain things and giving up some others. We call it growing up.

But maybe we should hold on to that thing which we do without realizing it and we surprise others with it.

Maybe growing up can wait as well, like so many other things.

 

Till next time!

How difficult to make a Sundial in Singapore?

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Dear Readers,

Thank you for coming here!

My Son had the homework for the weekend to make a simple Sundial.

And my wife assigned me as the “Responsible”, aka the one who does the work probably (Referring to RACI matrix).

So I watched the instruction video with my son the night before. The instructions were simple and clear.

It was supposed to be a simple task.

But it turned out to be a bit more complicated, which led me to think how much “nature” we have left among the man-made concrete.

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1.Where to find a place where we get sunlight all day long and we could leave our “WIP” sundial for the day?

In the video, the instruction was to fix the sundial in a spot and leave it there all day along.

First of all, we needed to find a place where we would get sunlight all day long.

Second, we needed to be able to leave our staff there.

To find a place where we would get sunlight all day long proved to be more difficult than expected.

Indoors was immediately out.

We thought of car parks and roof top gardens. At least the ones near our place were not ideal, due to either tall buildings or trees.

We looked around and did not find any qualified spot.

The next option we could think of was the beach…

We did not feel like going to the beach and the weather was not exactly “beach” type either.

I could only imagine how easy this would be in the place where I grew up. 

Any yard or field or rooftop or small road would do perfectly. There would probably be some curious kids who would just join in the fun and cause some damage.

Anyway, we had to improvise.

I tried to explain to my son that the Sun is so far away from us that the car park, garden and our flat were essentially the same spot and the shadow we got would be essentially the same.

I had to recall a few modules I took in school but eventually he bought the argument, which made the task a bit easier.

We would just go to any place that had sunlight at the time we needed to record down the position of the shadow.

Of course, we needed to ensure the panel was always facing the same direction every time we marked the shadow. 

The campus from my phone helped. We just drew an arrow on the panel and made sure it always pointed to the North.

Well, we thought we solved the biggest problem!

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2.Maybe the impact is more “Mental” rather than “Physical”

We thought we were set and we just needed to record down the position of the shadow at different full hours.

Quickly, the weather proved difficult.

The clouds were beautiful. I had to think a bit when was the last time I actually looked at clouds.

The clouds were thick. So the Sun was hidden most of the time.

We had to wait for the Sun to show itself to mark the shadow, which meant we could not record the position of the shadow at the exact full hour.

It could be 5–10 minutes later.

Again, we had to improvise. 

Then after 11am, we lost the Sun entirely. It even rained heavily.

After lunch, we both realized that it would be impossible to finish the sundial.

But the homework was for the weekend and it would have to be turned in on Monday.

So I made a suggestion to my son — Since you already know how it works, the rest is just repetitive work. We can just guess where the Sun would be and complete your homework.

He disagreed but I pushed him to do it anyway.

I guess I just wanted to complete it. Come on, it was just homework and he already learned what he was supposed to.

So within a minute, we did it.

I knew at noon, the shadow should be roughly due south this time of the year and I knew Singapore was using the wrong time (1pm is roughly noon).

I knew where North was (We had the arrow). So that was easy.

With the few “key points” there, the rest was just spread kind of randomly.

So we completed the homework. 

Yay!

And I went to enjoy my nap, knowing my task was done.

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Late in the afternoon, my wife told me that we received the instruction from the teacher that due to weather conditions, the assignment was postponed by a week.

I suddenly thought to myself — Why was completion so important? Why did I have to complete it? What would my son have learned from this experience?

Shouldn’t the natural reaction be to complete as much as possible and tell the teacher on Monday that the weather did not allow it?

Shouldn’t we expect the teacher to allow more time for the homework due to the weather, the uncontrollable factors?

Or would that even matter? 

If the teacher allowed more time, we would utilize it to complete it and if not, my son learned what he was supposed to learn anyway.

I wondered whether I had been poisoned too deeply by all those motivation theories, all the “result-oriented” mindset, all the “can-do” attitude?

Maybe when we feel we have lost too much “nature” among the man-made concrete, it is more “Mental” rather than “Physical”.

Till next time!