Fate does not only determine where we will end up, but also how we will get there.
At least, it feels like that sometimes.
I had a chat recently with an ex-colleague, who I am working with now for the next month or so.
Like me, he was in a very comfortable position in life.
Like me, he could not just enjoy it, feeling it was wrong and insecure to relax like that.
Like me, he “got out of his comfort zone”.
Unlike me, he did not experience any major set-back.
But like me, he was also struggling a bit, questioning himself why he could not just go with the flow and had to put himself in the struggling situation.
On the contrary, I also know people who are really good at enjoying life.
They may not make a lot of money, but they feel everything is in control. Even if something goes wrong, they just know that they will be ok.
I sincerely admire their sense of security and how relaxed they are.
I cannot help thinking sometimes that this may be the right way with life.
I tried to categorize the two types of people based on the background or traits, which did not really yield any convincing results.
If anything, first-generation immigrants exhibit more behaviors towards the former, while locals with big families tend to lead towards the latter.
This makes logical sense though.
Immigrants have to sort out many things all by themselves in the new environment, while having a big family locally means help and support on many issues, big and small.
